Marriage is a great thing, but it is really hard to keep that fire lit!!! Eric and I have been dealing, for what seems like our entire marriage, the difficulty of finding time together. See, I’m a night owl and he is an early bird. I can very easily stay up past midnight on any given night, provided that I don’t have to do anything before 10 in the morning! Home keeping has become an indulgent “job” for me in that no one is here to force me to rise (or set) with the sun. I just label myself as “not a morning person” and I refuse to begin my day. My children have already begun their day, so they get the square babysitter until I can function, which is usually past naptime. Obviously, this needs to change.
Eric, bless his heart, has tried to stay up a little later with me so that we can talk or spend time together but he needs to be up at 5:30am, sometimes earlier and staying up even until 10 or 11 is difficult for him. We have tried taking a date night, but that is just impractical with our time and budget to be the main thing that this couple uses to connect. While reading Passionate Housewives, Desperate for God by Stacy McDonald and Jennie Chancy, the author mentioned that she had a “tea time” with her husband in the morning before work everyday. After watching Eric struggle to read his Bible the other night because he was talking to me, I offered to wake up with him, make some coffee, and read a chapter from the Bible a day.
Today is day two and though I’m tired in the morning (I still manage to stay up later than he does…), I acknowledge that a morning routine is essential. The other advantage is that I’m up before the kids and therefore capable of being ready to start the day when they get up. I haven’t managed to shower before they woke up the last two days, but that’s not too terribly bad. As much as I abhor waking up early, this is my labor of love to serve my husband and children and so far, its working! I actually find myself happy to be up…now that’s a shock!