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The Heart of the Matter

(This post began as a response to Anastasia-Jane’s comment on my “My Issue with the Issues” post but it was just too long to post…and too important, so I’ve posted it here!)

I have always been one to give in to peer pressure, whether good or bad and for the longest time, I have always wanted to just fit in to a group. I have never fit into a group before and I don’t make friends easily or keep them long when I do. I think all of that “baggage” is what is preventing me from seeing what is right in front of my face!

I don’t look good in long skirts, I am about 75 pounds overweight and skirts are just NOT flattering when you are heavy. Sure, dresses can hide little indiscretions here and there, but they only work to accentuate the extra weight I’m carrying around. However, despite the fact that I look poorly in them, I have felt called to wear them. I feel better when I wear long skirts and I like it when my daughter does too. Frankly, at my weight dresses and skirts are just more comfortable because there is less pulling and tugging going on. So, for now, I am settling on the comfortable, God-honoring, modest, but completely unfashionable and unattractive skirts and dresses. As I lose the weight (see my other blog!) I hope to be able to begin to look nice in dresses again. I know I will once the weight is gone, and I’ll probably look better than I would in pants!!!

I know I’ve said a lot already but when you said that “God would lay in on your heart to change,” it made me think of what God is teaching me. I am learning about all of these different “conservative” approaches and I have tried them all with varying degrees of “success” but the real lesson isn’t in putting on a particular garment (skirt or headcovering) it is in my ATTITUDE, my heart that reveals what I am truly wearing. Whether I am wearing pants or a skirt, when I confront my husband over an issue, I disrespect his authority over me and disgrace my Father in heaven. I am learning so much about my place in the world, in society, in the home and under God. These things have been HARD for me to learn because it isn’t as easy as putting on a dress! I wish it was…but God is working on changing my heart. I praise Him for this stressful time because I know He is changing me into the woman that he wants me to be! My husband has already noticed a difference in my attitude toward him when I am wearing pants and when I am wearing skirts.

As I try to take it one day at a time, I am realizing that wearing these unattractive outfits keeps the vanity off of myself. I don’t have to fret about my “butt looking big in these jeans” because I’m not wearing jeans, I am wearing a modest dress or skirt. Sure, I am looking wider than I actually am, but I can give that to God. He has created me just as I am and loves all my curves, even the ones I want to get rid of! See, it’s really a heart issue. I have been complaining about my hair lately because it isn’t long and beautiful like so many other women. I want it to be long and beautiful and either straight or curly. My hair can’t decide what to be and just ends up frizzy, I get frustrated with it in the morning and am tempted to whine and complain…this is my heart!!! I am now turning to thanks all my complaints. “I hate scrubbing toilets! Thank you Lord that I have indoor plumbing, that my son is still too young to make cleaning around the side an arduous task. Thank you Lord that you have given me hands to work that I might bless my family with them.” And so goes my day. This can only be the Lord changing me. Oh, how I want to be changed!!! “Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.” Psalm 51:10 KJV

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One thought on “The Heart of the Matter

  1. Hey I just left a long winded comment on the post about this…I hope it makes sense.And the caboose on me??? Oh well, steady pace, I am the same weight in jeans as in a skirt…same with you. I like you do have issues when I see myself in some of the jumpers I have…Well feel free to swing by…My gang and I live in the country and really are making some interesting adjustments in our lives…blessingsJennifer

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